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A: When did you realize if any changes were going to take place in your marriage the changes start with you? Upon repeated hitting the wall with our failed overt and covert efforts to change each other. Subsequently, we tried to negotiate the changes we wanted to see in other. Contracting for the changes we desired in each other worked as long as we each kept our end of the deal. Whenever any one of us defaulted, the other felt justified to renege also. Then we began learning of God love—that is unconditional by nature! He loves us an independent, sovereign act of His will. We cannot stop it, prevent it, or change this. We have contributed nothing to it and can take nothing away from it! We discovered that this is God's aim in us! That we would also love unconditionally--independent of other's permission or approval, but rather as a sovereign act of our will is godly! This kind of love is perfected in us as we overcome conditions or objection that challenge unconditional love. In no other relationship was this challenge more apparent than in our marriage. Tony and Kim Rate this answer:
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You said that God intended for us to be holy, not just happy. Please explain. V. Jones A: The Bible is very clear that God has one agenda: to conform us to the likeness of Jesus Christ. This according to Romans 8: 29. We are to inwardly share His likeness, making us compatible with God! This is the work of the Holy Spirit in the life of the believer. Paul's word to the Romans was elaborated on in Peter's letter to the believers that had been scattered abroad. In I Peter 1: 15 and 16 we read, |
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Why did you title the book "Your Spouse Is Not Your Problem?" A: Couples are struggling. Couple's conflict remains unresolved despite all of the books, workshops and seminars on communication and resolving conflict! Divorce continues unabated in the church.
What we have found through the God's Word, rigorous examination of and application to our own conflict is this: all of our conflict has some recurring components. They are: |
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